The holidays are often a time of joy and celebration, but for someone navigating disordered eating or recovery, they can bring added stress and anxiety. With so many traditions revolving around food and conversations about dieting, weight, or appearance, it’s easy to see how this season can feel overwhelming. Social gatherings can also be tough, especially when there’s a fear of judgment or misunderstanding. If you’re here, chances are you want to help a loved one feel more comfortable during the holidays. You’re in the right place! In this blog, we’ll share friendly tips for supporting loved ones during holidays, helping your friend or family member feel safe, understood, and supported throughout the season.
Talk to your loved one about how they’d like your support
Everyone’s needs are unique. Some may appreciate being heard and understood, while others might prefer reminders or affirmations, or even distractions, during meals. A simple question like, “How can I best support you this holiday season?” or “Is there anything I can do to make this time of year less stressful for you?” can open the door to understanding their needs. This conversation can help them feel more at ease and remind them that you’re on their side. Even if they’re unsure of what they need, your willingness to listen and adapt shows you’re there for them no matter what.
Organize Fun Activities
Planning engaging activities can help shift the focus away from food while creating joyful memories for everyone. Consider games like cards, charades, or puzzles, or even a lively karaoke session or sing-along. These activities aren’t just distractions; they’re opportunities for the whole family to connect and have fun together!
Be There for Them at Mealtime
Before the meal, check in with your loved one to see how you can best support them. During the meal, keep the conversation relaxed and steer clear of anything related to food, eating, or body image. Try not to focus on what or how much they’re eating; trust them to make their own choices. Let them know you’re proud of them and that you’re there to listen if they want to talk about how they’re feeling afterward. These steps are all part of supporting loved ones during holidays in a compassionate and understanding way.
Redirect conversations
Stick close to your loved one and gently shift the conversation away from topics like eating habits, weight, or appearance. Even well-meaning comments can be triggering. Since holidays can bring up talks about dieting or feelings of guilt about eating, try redirecting the discussion to keep it light and supportive for everyone.
Create an exit plan
Sometimes, your loved one might need a break to recharge. Whether it’s stepping outside for some fresh air or finding a quiet space to themselves, having a plan in place can help them decompress before rejoining the group. You could also create a code word to check in with them, so you can tell when they need a little extra support.
Reach out to a professional
If you’re a parent or caregiver, it might be helpful to reach out to your loved one’s therapist or dietitian for expert advice. They can offer valuable insights and guidance, especially if your loved one has a meal plan as part of their treatment. This guidance can be an important part of supporting loved ones during holidays, helping them continue to follow their plan, ease stress, and maintain their routine.