How to tell a loved one you are struggling with an eating disorder

Written by Amanda Murphy LCSW, CADC

Support is a cornerstone of successful eating disorder recovery. Telling your loved ones that you are struggling with an eating disorder can be a difficult but important step towards getting the support and help you need. Here are some suggestions for how to approach the conversation:

Choose the Right Time and Place: Find a quiet, private setting where you can have an uninterrupted conversation. Choose a time when both you and your loved ones are relatively calm and not distracted by other obligations.

Be Honest and Direct: Approach the conversation with honesty and openness. Let your loved ones know that you have something important to discuss with them and that you need their support.

Use “I” Statements: Share your feelings and experiences using “I” statements to express your own thoughts and emotions.

Express Your Needs: Let your loved ones know what kind of support you need from them, whether it’s emotional support, practical help, or assistance in finding professional treatment.

Give space for their reactions: Understand that your loved ones may react with shock, concern, or even denial. Be patient and compassionate with their response, and give them time to
process the information.

Offer Resources: The National Eating Disorder Association can be a great resource for your loved one to learn more about eating disorders and how to support you.

Set Boundaries: Be clear about your boundaries and what you’re comfortable sharing with your loved ones. Let them know if there are certain topics or questions that are off-limits.

Reinforce Boundaries and Stay consistent: Consistency is key to reinforcing boundaries. Stay calm and respectful. Sticking to your boundaries even when it is challenging helps others understand that you are serious about your needs and limits.

Seek Professional Help: Family therapy or individual therapy may be beneficial in helping you and your loved ones navigate this challenging time together. Utilize the support of your therapist to rehearse and cope ahead with telling your loved one about your eating disorder.

Remember that opening up about your eating disorder is a brave and courageous step towards getting the help you need. Your loved ones care about you and want to support you in your recovery journey. Recovery is not a path you have to walk alone – support is available, and it can make all the difference.

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